Fight the feeling of getting overwhelmed by using targeted self-talk.

A sapling growing through rock crevices.
A sapling growing through rock crevices.
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“If you want results, give the new, hard task to the busiest person on the team.” This is an intriguing thought that has stuck with me for a very long time, especially since it sounds so counterintuitive.

If you need to get something important done, why would you give it to somebody who is already very busy? Wouldn’t it be better to instead give it to a person who has a lot less on their plate?

Interestingly, over time, I’ve often seen this play out in action. I think this is so because some of the “busiest” people actually have a superpower. They are less likely to get overwhelmed quickly and can recalibrate a task’s priority to make sure it happens as needed. They don’t procrastinate, worrying about calculating the probability of making it happen, they just find a way to get it done. …


Tips for saving storage space in Google Photos

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I have been using Google Photos for the last five years mainly because of the free storage and AI search capabilities. It is a tool I have relied on to store my family’s most precious memories and share important moments with friends, so when I received an email from Google on November 11, 2020, announcing that the free run will end on June 1, 2021, I was sorely disappointed.

Photos had become the home for what I wanted to remember and preserve. …


How to stop spinning your wheels and reach your goal faster.

Have you ever put in lots of effort towards your goal and realized that it seems to be moving further away?

A ladder against a rugged hill.
A ladder against a rugged hill.
A quick ladder can get you to your target faster (Image by Robert R. from Unsplash)

Many times I have sat up past midnight, spending all my emotional energy and time on a task, without making progress.

I did not realize that the biggest chunk of my time went into frolicking around the task or tinkering at it, as I shied away from tackling the core. I then carried around me an air of disappointment as if I had been wronged.

I allowed my mind to work in a strange manner. One time when I wanted to set up an extra TV in the basement, I spent the whole day slogging there without success. I had some fear about my ability to mount a TV on a wall but I felt that the priority was to clean and organize the basement for me to watch TV there. …


On Raising Teenagers

Raising children is complicated. There are no universal principles like Newton’s laws of motion that work for action and reaction in relationships. One child may respond positively to something while another may not.

I am not a great parent (as my children will happily and readily confirm), and here are a few thoughts that over the years have helped me “damage” my kids. Better late than never!

#1 Drown your Message in Self-Created Noise

Keep reminding your child of what you have already said to them N number of times. Let your meaningful message get lost in your self-created noise. Drown them in, “I told you so”(s). …


The four pillars of a happy attitude.

A poster in red and purple showing the four key differences between a happy and an unhappy attitude.
A poster in red and purple showing the four key differences between a happy and an unhappy attitude.
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Happiness is an attitude. It is up to you to either nurture your happy thought process and make it dominant or let the unhappy part of you take over your life.

It is easy to train our thought process to follow four pillars that create and sustain joy.

Gratefulness

For me, the most important difference between being happy and unhappy depends on the extent to which I think about and am grateful for what I already have. Once the base state of mind is positive it is much easier to deal with worries and disappointments. My happy self keeps reminding me of how lucky I am to have what I have, and this self tries to fight off the unhappy self that attempts to remind me of what I do not have. …


The art of intentional thinking

A feather being released by a hand into a water body surrounded by mountains.
A feather being released by a hand into a water body surrounded by mountains.
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Our world is in our minds.

And, we have the power to make it either a beautiful place or a miserable place.

When we are having a rough day, it’s important to remember that, some things are going to make us sad or upset, but how long we dwell on them and how much we let them get to us depends, many times, on us.

Whatever we talk to ourselves about, becomes our narrative.

The thoughts that bring us down grow like snowballs. The longer we roll them in misery the bigger they get. Eventually, they become like a tsunami. Every time we scrape their parts, we rake them up and dig deeper into them it becomes harder and harder to get out of the whirlpool. In our increasing pain, we forget that the tsunami does not exist for everyone, just that it is in our mind, our self created reality. …


Strategies for success

Shoes and legs of two people are visible with text printed on floor “Passion Led Us Here”
Shoes and legs of two people are visible with text printed on floor “Passion Led Us Here”
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While working with parents of middle school children I realized that most parents wanted their children to be self-driven and goal-oriented. However, their parenting styles commonly fell into two extremes: some went into an overdrive of authority, while others were laissez-faire. Parents often found it hard to straddle the fine line between instilling structure and inculcating independence.

Many times we perpetuate what we learned from our parents. My parents were very function-oriented. …


Check for intent and attitude

Two hands holding coffee cups on a table.
Two hands holding coffee cups on a table.
Photo by Marcos Paulo Prado on Unsplash

My problem is that I talk a lot and I love connecting and reconnecting with people. I am also guilty of indulging myself in long, meandering phone conversations. So much so that I have considered creating an auto cut phone app like a pre-set timer to keep me in check.

Realizing, that I get easily drawn into conversations at home, one day I went to a local coffee shop to get some work done. I wanted to avoid distractions by being amid strangers.

At the coffee shop, I needed the wifi password and I figured the quickest way would be to just ask the guy sitting close by. …


How to become a better leader just by listening.

Different types of EdTech tools converging on a teacher
Different types of EdTech tools converging on a teacher
Remote Teaching: Information Overload (Image by Primal Dhillon)

When remote schooling first began, I was upbeat.

As an Assistant Principal in a New York City middle school, I thought my only challenge would be to become an expert in new technologies and workflows.

I just had to search for the latest tools available for internet instruction and offer teachers proper learning opportunities. “I can do that!” I figured.

So, whenever I heard of a new EdTech tool, I jumped to learn it myself and introduce it to others. As teachers started getting used to the intricacies of our main platform, Google Classroom, I rushed ahead to show them how to use other interactive digital tools such as Padlet and Kahoot!. …


Why millions of students in developing countries are using WhatsApp for remote learning and why WhatsApp must act fast

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WhatsApp in Remote Education

When schools suddenly closed, it seemed obvious that world over tools like Google Classroom, Khan Academy or BYJU’S would skyrocket in usage. However, I was surprised when classrooms in countries such as India instead migrated to WhatsApp, a Facebook-owned communication app, that was never intended for education in the first place. I find it intriguing that something which was never created with education in mind now has the potential to evolve, claim a market share in the EdTech sector and impact education in a meaningful manner.

So why has WhatsApp risen as an education platform when there are dedicated, purpose-built platforms like Google Classroom, Khan Academy and Flipgrid? …

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Primal Dhillon

Educator, Assistant Principal, #New York City, #education #parenting #growth #innovation #edtech #empower #happiness, views my own https://www.mindkyte.com/blog

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